Some people just want to be alone

Good article on Huff Po Here about the importance of doing things alone. In our modern culture that seems to cultivate/worship/lionize business, it is increasingly rare—and thus more rewarding—when we DO spend some time alone. I know surfing and running are some of the only real solo times I get where I can get lost in my thoughts. Biking/walking to and from campus every day is nice, but it’s only a few minutes each way. I think my best ideas come after the 40-minute mark on runs.

Of course, since we always have our phones on us, it’s all too easy to get pulled out of zone-out-cognitive-freedom area and back into BZZZ! Oh I got a work email! I should really contact so-and-so…

Using Loneliness for Good

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Cool Science of Us article here about how a little loneliness can actually be a good thing. When we are hungry, we know that is our body’s way of telling us to go get food. Thinking about loneliness in the same way helps us realize that loneliness isn’t necessarily a bad thing on its own—it’s when we don’t do anything about it that it becomes a problem. If we can use loneliness as fuel to prompt us to engage with others in a meaningful way, then perhaps it can be a net-positive (or at least neutral) feeling in the long run.

Are people who live alone actually less lonely?

Bella DePaulo wrote this post for Psychology Today about a study that found single people were less lonely than their cohabiting counterparts, controlling for income. This goes against much of the research on loneliness that suggests people who live with others (romantic or not) are less likely to be afflicted by it. I suppose if someone lives along, they might make more of an effort to be deliberate about the time they DO spend maintaining relationships, as opposed to someone who lives with others—even with a spouse—and ends up coasting through their day without actually connecting with another human being.

Of course, the study was done using Germans, so who knows what conclusions we can actually draw…